There’s a lot of buzz going around and have been for the last week or so about this anime. I suppose in a way I get it. Woman frame a man for rape.
I don’t get the loud voices and the horrified screams though. I don’t get the upset people shouting about how it is misogynistic and horrible that a woman is falsely accusing a man of rape.
MeToo showed us not only how many women and men are exposed to sexual harassment and abuse. It also showed us the ugly side; the side where false accusations were made against innocent people. Internet was full of persons pointing fingers at men and women who hadn’t done anything but perhaps looked the wrong way. “He looked at me and I didn’t like it. #metoo” Of course, that’s not to be compared to someone accusing you of rape. “He sucked in bed and only played with his phone. #metoo” Still not the same of course. There were a lot of worse accusations than these, for example someone who once sent nude pictures, voluntarily to their then boyfriend, now accusing him of sexual harassment, meaning he forced them. What unites these examples, and more, are that the girls were all believed in and the boys weren’t listened to and/or believed.
Many voices are raised against this anime because it shows a side that is ugly. No one wants to depict a woman in this role. It’s misogynistic to make the woman evil and base a whole anime off of it. Turn the falsely accused man into someone who hates women. But here’s the thing; Naofumi doesn’t hate women – Naofumi hates the whole world and all the people in it. They ALL wrong him. No one asks him what has happened, they all believe the woman. They all cast him aside and throw him out, spread rumors about him and cause him to loneliness. Everybody in that world hate him for something he hasn’t done and he doesn’t even get a chance to explain himself.
Rape is a serious topic. Women and men are being raped every day. That doesn’t mean that we can’t use it in pop culture. There is nothing wrong in showing both sides of the coin. It’s not exclusively women who get raped. Women can also be on the giving end, raping. Women can plot to frame another person by accusing them of rape, be it by ill will, revenge or just for fun. It happens. It’s a real thing. And, it is damaging. Is it wrong to show that side of the coin? Is it wrong to show what it can do to a person? Wouldn’t you distrust the people if you were thrown out like Naofumi? Again, he hates not only the women but the whole world, because they have all betrayed him. Of course he wants revenge. I know I would.
As a side note: No, you do not hate women if you like this anime. No you are not evil if you like this anime. No you are not an anti-feminist if you like this anime. No, you do not condone misogynistic behavior if you like this anime. It’s fiction. That’s all it is.
Side note 2: I’m a feminist and I love this anime so far. I don’t discriminate which means I hate most people, despite their gender. I am however evil so there’s that of course.
And if you are by chance upset about the title of this post I suggest you go and do some Nirvana research. Just, you know, some real quality grunge with a message and all that.